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The commonest of all the
problems is most of the kids are easily fascinated by the toys and belongings of
other kids resulting in demand for the same thing from their parents. Now this
happens so frequently that it becomes very difficult for parents to fulfill all
their every-day demands. And it is more difficult to deal with the kids in the
age group of 3-5 years. They live in such a self centered world that they do
what they want to do and for that, they can create all sorts of nuisance
anytime, anywhere ultimately forcing the parent to get the things done.
How can you get this matter
resolved? Your child is not ready to listen to you till you get him what he
wants. Threatening, nagging, punishing will worsen the situation. So there is no
scope for that. Bribing him for some other thing leads to the rise of other
problems. He may listen to you for sometime but he comes back to his point that
he wants the same thing. So this is also not going to work. But something needs
to be done because fulfilling one demand will definitely give rise to another
demand and this will continue. But how to limit their demand?
I also faced this situation when
my 4year old daughter demanded a toy microwave oven that she had seen at one of
her friend's place. The toy was imported and gifted to her friend by his
relatives. So we knew that this specific toy will not be easily available in the
shops. My daughter had stopped eating her food properly. To pacify her, we also
tried to look for it in a few shops but in vain. She was not ready to accept
other toys. I knew at that moment that we were in trouble. I was thinking of
various solutions for this problem. Her stubbornness grew, making it difficult
for us to deal with the situation. Then suddenly I asked her "how about making a
microwave oven at home?"
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She raised her face to look
at me attentively, she stopped misbehaving at once and asked me curiously
"is it possible mom? How can we do it? Will it look like the one I have
seen?" Instantly, I replied "it will be better than that because you are
going to make it." I saw an excitement on her face. So without disturbing
the flow I thought of moving on. I was now sure that some thing has clicked
and it is going to be a hit. I asked her to get an empty shoebox which was
in the shoe rack, and then we picked up some glittering wrappers, scissor,
fevicol, tape, sketch pens and a few decorative items. I told her that we
will work on it together. We wrapped the shoebox with a beautiful paper and
cut out a door in the front and then made all sorts of buttons on one side
and decorated the oven while involving her completely.
The end result was really
good. It was a very good effort on our part. I saw my daughter's face, she
was so happy that she had made a microwave oven herself. She called all her
friends and showed the homemade oven to everyone. The idea worked. |
She stopped demanding for the toy
microwave! I took a sigh of relief. The homemade oven became very dear to
her. She happily played with it and treasured it as she had made it herself. She
felt very proud of what she had achieved.
From then on, I tried to find out
every solution at home for her fascinations before hunting for it in the market.
Of course, I will not talk about the large objects that she demanded for such as
a cycle as we cannot make at home but I think we can limit the smaller ones.
Firstly, it is not a costly
affair and secondly, things can be made out of cheap, readily available
materials at home. You just need to be creative and apply your brain and it can
do wonders. So we made wonderful things like:
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camera out of a soap box
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goggles out of paper and
cardboard
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purse out of newspaper
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wristwatch with cardboard and
ribbons
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Christmas tree with
disposable glass, paper and other decorative items
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Painted a t-shirt with her
favourite cartoon character on it with fabric colours etc.
She demanded these things and we
made them at home involving her. She started enjoying the idea. It was fun for
her. The whole idea satiated her demands and my problem was also solved
peacefully.
Further, I realized that this idea helped me in various ways. As a parent:
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I learned how to handle such
situations peacefully, patiently and calmly without losing temper,
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It brought out my creative
side also,
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It is fun playing and doing
something creative with kids.
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It made me feel lighter in
the day's hectic schedule,
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I developed a special bonding
with my kid.
For the development of child
this idea helped me in:
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Limiting her demands,
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Proper utilization of time,
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Inculcating creative interest
in her and bringing out her creativity.
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Even kids apply their mind
and give ideas which should be encouraged.
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This helps in the development
of cognitive and thinking skills of the kids,
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learning touch, feel and how
to use different things safely under the guidance of some elder person. It
helps in improving fine motor skills of the child,
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Channelising her energy into
positive things and doing something productive and constructive,
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Encourages group activity
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Encourages feeling of
importance as she gets proper attention during that time which further
boosts her self-confidence and development that she can do it,
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This enthusiasm keeps her
happy which positively affects other things.
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Her happiness and smile on
her face keeps me going when she says "mamma lets do it?"
Contributed By:
Richa Agarwal,
a house wife, a post graduate in mass communication and
journalism & has a passion for writing.
richa.ag04@gmail.com
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